Shhhh, I want to share something really, really personal and private. I haven’t talked to my husband about it, but it’s on my heart, and I want to share. It’s all about how to find true love.
Let’s talk about love.
How to find true love? How do you keep it? And how do you make it amazing?
For me, it didn’t come easy, but I’ve learned a lot of lessons along the way. I know that my purpose is to share my story with you so that you don’t have to go through some of the stuff that I went through.
So here’s my private, personal message to you today. My birthday was about a week ago, and I received the most amazing cards from my husband. I want to share them with you because I know that you would love to get a card like this. I’ll share two of the four cards he gave me. I know some people enjoy creating their own cards, but since we’re both left brain people, we are not that creative. Peter and I love to go in search for the perfect card. We go shopping and find great cards that speak about how we feel. We have this game where we try to see who can find the perfect card.
Let me share two of the cards he gave me. The first one says, “For my wife – my wife with love. The magic began the moment I met you, and each day you enchant me more. Happy birthday to the one my dreams are made of.” Wow. Pretty cool. Right?
Does love come in that, firecracker magic moment?
I think there’s some truth to that. I think we are attracted by our energy and who we are. We are attracted to each other. But that’s not the only thing, is it? The initial spark that brings two people together is a gift from God, but after that, it’s a lot of work, isn’t it?
I will be honest with you. Peter is my second husband. I was married before, and I messed that one up. I take a lot of responsibility for it and can tell you why. It’s because I didn’t know who I was.
My first husband, the father of my son, is a great guy. We hit it off, with that first magic spark and it was amazing. He was funny. We laughed and had a great relationship. We both were left-brained, in the same field and understood each other. There were a lot of great things we had in common, but there was a lot of stuff or issues we brought to our marriage, which ended up wearing us down over time.
I don’t want to get into all the details, but instead, stress the importance of knowing yourself and figuring out who you are before you get into a relationship. That initial spark might have been there, but if I hadn’t done all the work I did before I met Peter, this marriage probably wouldn’t have lasted either.
What do I mean? What did I do?
I worked on figuring out who I am and continue to work on discovering myself every day. Who am I at the deepest level? Who am I in my heart and soul? I lived life with life happening to me. I let my life happen and didn’t run my life. Luckily, I learned to change all that.
I worked on figuring out who I am and continue to work on discovering myself every day. Who am I at the deepest level? Who am I in my heart and soul? I lived life with life happening to me. I let my life happen and didn’t run my life. Luckily, I learned to change all that.
My second card is almost as amazing as the first. It reads, “I will always love you and not just because you are my amazing wife. I love you because of the strong woman you’ve always been on your own. I love you because of the ways you believe in us and the life we’ve built together. I love you because you’ve trusted me with your heart and given mine a place to call home. You are the love of my life, my soul mate, most beautiful friend one man could ever have.” Then Peter wrote, “These words say it all.” Where do you find that – where does that deep, deep love come from?
One of those nights
Last night, we had one of those nights. One of those nights where it wasn’t all magic, and it wasn’t all happy. We went to bed, and Peter said I am done. He’d had a bad day at work, and he was done. He was done with working, done with making money, done with maintaining the life we’ve built. And he said, I just want to sell everything and live in what he calls peace. So what did I say? Well, first I said, “It’s okay if you think for one minute Peter that our life is about stuff or material thing. You are crazy if you think that because it’s not the case. It’s about the love that we’ve built. If we sell everything, we can live happily ever after, because we have each other.”
I just wanted to share today how to find true love, keep love and keep working at it. This marriage to Peter takes just as much work as the first marriage. What else? It’s hard. There are times when we want to throw our hands in and give up, but the difference is that we have God at the center of our lives. What Peter said to me was “I thank God for you every day.” And I said, “really, like every day?” And he said, “every day, every day I thank God for you.”
Thanks for allowing me to share my story.
I try to teach and help others with life lessons to help to inspire and encourage. We will get through the tough times but at the center of it all, know that everything takes work, even a great relationship. Even with a husband who believes that the magic happened the day he met me, it doesn’t mean we don’t stop working at it. You have to work at it every day.
There is a fairytale fantasy land out there so don’t go looking for it. Know that it all takes work and if you keep God at the center, love will always win out.
I am Renee Teller, a life strategist, who loves to help people ignite their lives, get organized so we all can have a spectacular life.
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