Redefine failure – you didn’t fail, it was an experiment and you need to redo the experiment. Here’s the only way I define failure. Failure is when I give up. Stop trying. Walk away. Don’t do it. Turn my back. That’s failure. The only way you can fail, truly fail is by not doing. You simply stop.
Always, always, always forgive yourself. If you didn’t accomplish it, forget it, move on. Who we are is not defined by our accomplishments or by things. We are defined by our heart and how big we love and how we share ourselves with the world that we live in.
We are all gifted in very different ways. I am one of five sisters, and very recently my 83-year-old dad came to live with me. He has some health issues and challenges so each of the five sisters are taking turns caring for him. He said to me last night, “I can’t get over how different you all are.” We were all raised by the same parents, we were all trained the same way so to speak, but he sees our very unique gifts, how special and different we all are and that’s the same for you. You need to stop beating yourself up, you need to forgive yourself and you need to master doing this. It gets easier and easier to forgive myself as I just brush things aside because I know that my true heart wants to serve people and help them learn what I’ve learned over the years.